Thoughtfulness Is So Underrated…
May 16, 2022
I was on one of my many walks with Moe when I felt my phone buzzing in my pocket. I pulled it out to see a text from my friend, Aastha, it read, “Chelsea are you home? I was going to head to Alana’s,” which is our favorite coffee shop, “so let me know if I can drop off a little pick me up!” I stared at my phone. I couldn’t remember the last time I had a friend just show up at my door to drop off a coffee and say hi. I immediately got that warm tingly feeling in my heart. How thoughtful! I thought. I almost told her no, I didn’t want her to go out of her way or be an inconvenience, but I was so taken aback at the prospect of her just wanting to drop by I said yes, if only just to hug her and thank her for her thoughtfulness.
I am lucky to be surrounded by such thoughtful people who make me feel so good and make me want to be more thoughtful of others. Whether it’s a random voice memo from Juliette, on her way to work, Alex surprising me totally out of the blue to celebrate my book launch with me, Domi bringing flowers home for me for no special reason, Keith and Lauren showing up at our house with cookies after we had a break in, or KC texting me just to say she’s proud of me-their thoughtfulness makes me feel so special and leaves me wanting to pay it forward. We’re so busy in our daily lives that I think we often forget the little ways in which we can be thoughtful of the people we love.
Aastha showed up with the coffee at my house about a half-hour later and never even stepped inside, she had to run errands, but I got a coffee and a hug, and the rest of the day I was in an amazing mood because of that. I kept thinking, Wow, someone thought of me. It was an amazing feeling. 10/10 would recommend.
What I also realized is that not only does being thought of feel good but so does thinking of someone else. Seeing someone’s joy when you make them feel special is such a treat itself.
I also noticed what an impact someone else’s and my own thoughtfulness have on my mental health. I feel more loved, excited, and joyful when I feel thought of or when I think to go out of my way, even slightly, for someone else.
May is Mental Health Awareness Month and I feel like thoughtfulness is a tool that we could be accessing so much more as a way to improve our mental health. So, here is a list of ways we can start thinking more of each other and keep this positive feedback loop of thoughtfulness going.
- Randomly bring your friend a coffee.
- Text someone out of the blue just to say hi and tell them you love them.
- Show up for someone out of the blue when they’re not expecting it.
- Text someone to make sure they got home safely.
- Use the “I” in “I love you.”
- When you see something someone you know might appreciate, send them a picture of them and let them know you’re thinking of them.
- Reminding people how proud they make you.
- Showing genuine interest in someone when they’re talking and really listening.
- Putting your phone down when you’re with someone else.
- Reminding people that they don’t need to earn your love and are incredible just they way they are.
There are so many small ways we can be thoughtful. I can’t wait to hear which ones excite you the most.
Happy May, friends. I hope you’re all safe and warm and taking care of yourselves. I love you, XOXO, CAMDW.