Hello, my loves! I hope you’re having a wonderful day wherever you are in the world. And whether it’s an amazing day or a day that leaves you wanting for something more, I am wrapping my arms around you.
Life is not a straight shot. You don’t shoot your bow and arrow and watch your life go exactly in one direction. There are bumps and curves and learning, and growth, and change and unexpected events and beauty and love and loss and so much more…should I say and again? (It’s really a miracle I got a publishing contract with my grammar.) But here is one thing I believe deeply—there is no one way to do life. There are no specific stages at specific ages or boxes we can check off because life is ongoing and I wish with all my heart and soul that we could remove the word “should” from our vocabulary.
The idea that we’re “supposed” to be in a certain place in our life, career, or relationships can be so detrimental to how we go about our lives every day. It can lead to us making choices for our lives that are not rooted in who we are and what we want, but what we believe others and society expect of us or want for us. So, how can we remind ourselves that there are no “shoulds” in life? Here are some things I love to do
I put post-its everywhere that remind me of that. Little notes like, “you are exactly where you are meant to be” or “this is your story, only you get to write it.”
If these sticky-note mantras are a little too cheesy for your style, you can take time every day and either just sit quietly or journal about all of the things you have been able to accomplish. Taking time to appreciate and be grateful for what you do have and what you have accomplished can fuel feelings of worthiness, which can aid in feeling confident and comfortable with where you are in life.
Just remember we are all going through something and so is everyone else we pass on the street and usually that journey is something we know nothing about, regardless of what people tell us or what we see on social media. We only get half the picture of anyone’s life, so as you start to compare yourself to others, take time to remind yourself that what you see is never the whole picture. You are a whole and worthy being exactly as you are and where you are in life.
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